Hey peeps, so I spent yesterday’s snow day catching up on the best show ever – “This is Us.” Please tell me you watch it??
Well, I was on episode 10 when Sloane and Kevin were having a discussion on their “status.” It went a little something like this: Sloane nervously asked Kevin, “What are we doing…I mean are we just sleeping together because if so that’s totally fine.” Kevin, obviously frazzled by the question responds, “Here’s the thing. I like you…a lot. You’re funny, you’re brilliant and I like sleeping with you. I don’t know what we are. I’m just happy there’s a we to talk about.”
Now did he answer the question? Because if he did then I missed it. It goes back to the point I made in my last video, “I’m Single…and I’m Selective Too” about listening intently to what is said versus what you want to hear.
Although this is television, this is some people’s reality and when I heard it my heart just sank…because I’ve been there. I knew I deserved better and wanted more but was willing to take what I could get because there was a “we.” For goodness sake, I didn’t want to be that single friend who’s shoulder everybody cried on. I wanted to trade stories about my boo during girl chat…but the turmoil wasn’t worth it – and it still ain’t.
Precious dear hearts, as the title states, “Don’t settle for less…if you want more.” If it’s marriage you desire, then you have to carry yourself as such, not compromise nor give mixed signals. Guys may not like it, but one thing’s for certain – THEY WILL RESPECT YOU.
Until next time…xx Nij <3