My precious ladies, you are worthy of being in love and being loved. However, my advice is to get a handle on your personal and emotional issues before entering into a relationship. It is unfair to give someone the “job” of loving you- when you don’t love yourself.
Before making it official with your boyfriend/fiancé/husband, you should already:
- have a clear sense of your self-identity
- know the value of your self-worth
- be comfortable in your own skin – regardless of your size. (Trust me when I tell you, confidence is sexy!)
In my opinion, failure to work on yourself first will cause you to put unnecessary strain on the relationship and also unrealistic expectations on your significant other. Besides, their job is to love you, not complete you. Can you imagine the burden this would cause the relationship if you are constantly picking apart your body while trying to fit society’s mold of beauty? For example, he says you’re “the most beautifullest thing in this world” (Keith Murray’s voice). Instead of giving him a wink and the biggest hug, you tug on your tummy in disbelief. You can’t expect your guy to convince you of how pretty you are – if you don’t already believe it. You need to know it AND own it! From personal experience, these insecurities aren’t going away just because you ignore them…and you may even run him away in the process.
Also, get rid of the scales for goodness sakes because way too much emphasis is put on it. Too many women are obsessing over how much they weigh, counting calories, dieting, liposuction, buying “cakes”, boobs, etc. only to find that none of these things can meet your personal and emotional needs.
In closing dear hearts get to the ROOT of the problem by digging deep and above all LOVE YO SELF…because that is what truly makes a woman beautiful…xxx Nij
Hey chicas, so today I am highlighting this Faux Fur Collar Barn Jacket by Avenue Plus Size Clothing. Listed below are 3 reasons why this jacket is a must have in your closet- like RIGHT NOW!
Reason #1 – The look & feel of it is just what you need for fall. It is quilted but very lightweight, so you won’t feel like you’re wearing a snowsuit. I wore it while hanging out in the city with my girl Lei-Loni of Clothe Your Curves and it was perfect for this brisk November evening. You could catch me up and down 7th Avenue strutting my stuff in this cute number!
Reason #2 – It was a perfect fit! I ordered a smaller size (14/16) and I’m glad I did. It contours my body, giving a nice silhouette. Also for my ladies with plush arms like me, it wasn’t too tight and I didn’t feel restricted.
Reason #3 – There are so many ways to style it! From the office to the weekend, this coat is sure to satisfy your fashion needs. Another option is to wear it without the faux fur collar, as it is detachable.
Needless to say, in the words of Tamar Braxton, this coat helped me get my life!!!!!! Check out the pics if you don’t want to take my word for it! Until next time FABBIES…xxx Nij
*Thank you Avenue Plus Size Clothing for sponsoring my “Believe in Boho” look.*
Who said running errands means sweats and sneakers? If it’s a quick store run after one of my workouts, then fine. But the temperature was nearly 70 degrees in Jersey, so ya girl was not about to be parade around town in gym clothes…not tu-DAY (today)! Although the ‘fit was clearly for fall, it was still cool enough to wear on this lovely spring like day.
Needless to say, I loved this comfy yet cute look. Being the Statement Tee lover that I am, it’s no secret that I was instantly sold upon seeing it. The added bling on the front was a plus because I absolutely “Believe in Today!”. This three quarter length sharkbite tee was matched with a pair of great fitting jeans – which are a staple for any fashionistas closet. To date, I have 3 pairs of the butter denim jeans…I could use a few more, but who’s keeping count? (lol) Lastly, it is fall so bring on the boots! In my opinion, these black suede tasseled booties were a great addition to this Boho look. So yes my dear chicas…I completed my errands all while keepin’ it cute!
Before summer even made it’s debut, I had mines all planned out – one that included vacationing and sitting poolside in over sized sunnies with a chilled sparkling seltzer, garnished with strawberries and an umbrella toothpick. Sounds refreshing right?? Welp, summer came and ERR’THANG fell through.
Instead of getting frustrated, I thought about the bible scripture that states “Man makes plans but God establishes his steps” (Proverbs 16:9). So I said okay God, I know you have something else planned for me. Almost immediately, the business idea I had came to mind…yeah the one I had been shelving for the past few years. So I began to invest both time and money toward its development. (Slowly but surely, the title of entrepreneur will be added to my list of accomplishments.) Had I gone on vacation, my summer funds would have been depleted and that business plan would have been collecting dust -again.
School also became a priority – and yep you guessed it. I had to put out “mo money, mo money!” Keep in mind the funds were dwindling, but I could hear God saying, “Daughter I got you.” That was all the reassurance I needed to enroll in not one, but two summer courses.
Oh yeah, as if that weren’t enough, hiring a personal trainer was etched on my to do list! Don’t get me wrong, I had been doing good on my own, but I just felt it was time to kick it up a notch. For those wondering, no the trainer isn’t doing pro bono work, and my health insurance is not covering it. So I had to dig even deeper.
I gotta tell you though, the decision to invest in me was one of the best choices I could have made especially at this time in my life. The vacation can wait, but the decision to invest in my future is of essence. Besides, I had put it off long enough. The benefits of taking those leaps of faith have been rewarding in so many ways…and just think, this is just the beginning!
One thing’s for sure, I had the opportunity to wake up everyday and inspire people, simply by doing what I love. I’m looking forward to sharing all these updates with you. Until then dear hearts, step out on faith and trust God in the process. Remember that when your plans don’t seem to work out the way you want, know that God is behind the scenes setting you up for blessings that you aren’t even aware of. So just chill and W(atch) H(im) I(ncrease) P(rovision)…because when God sets you up it’s going to work in your favor.
Hey FABBIES (Fabulous + Ladies)!!! A good pair of jeans is really hard to come by. I have tried many different brands and to date, I have only 1 decent pair. However, I got the opportunity to try the Delux Legging Jeans from the Avenue and they are amaaaazing!!! They hug my curves in all the right places and did not lose their shape by the end of the day!! So 10s across the board from me!
When it comes to ponchos, I’m sort of leery because they aren’t really figure flattering on me. But I have seen many fashionistas rock them fabulously, so I decided to give this Embroidered Poncho Tunic with Fringe a try. I ordered a size smaller, hoping it would fit my plush frame flawlessly…and baby yes it did! I pranced and twirled all around in this poncho. The material was soft against my skin and the fringe tips gave it a nice embellishment.
Lastly, the Rochelle Wrapped Buckle Boot, earrings, bracelet and ring completed this fall look. These boots are perfect for gals with wide calves and the accessories were just what this fashionista needed. Everything just seemed to mesh together well and it made me fall in love with fall all over again! While I am going to miss the warmness of summer dearly, I am ready to welcome fall – especially the fashion!
You can shop the entire look here! Fall for Fringe. Until next time FABBIES, you can catch me perusing the fashion aisles at an Avenue near you. I’d love to know your fall fashion must haves and/or your thoughts on this Iook!
Fringe Benfits anyone?
What’s up beauties and beaus!
You know how much I love statement tees, right? Well, blogger MarieChic has her own line that is guaranteed to cause a bunch of stares and some snaps!
I first met this beauty at Full Figured Fashion Week this past June, and since then we have kept in contact and supported each other across different platforms. Upon meeting MarieChic, I was immediately impressed with her signature hashtag #somuchslayage ; so much so that I ordered this sassy tank! Why, because I love the SLAYAGE!!!!!!!
I am super excited that MarieChic is sponsoring this Curvy Habits Tee (featured below) for my very first giveaway!
How cool is that? She also has a blog where she offers readers her taste for all things curvy and cute, while keeping it confident. I am certain that one of her tees will be a perfect addition to your already fabulous- and ever growing- wardrobe. Not to mention, you will have people asking you to slow down just so they can read your shirt. So, head on over to NJs Plus Size Beauty on Facebook for your chance to enter and win!
Here’s a quick video on the age old question: “How often should I weigh myself.” Don’t get me wrong, scales do serve a purpose but they should be your only source for checking progress. As I stated in the video, it takes time to see change so don’t allow the scale to bully you during the process.
Anybody who knows me, knows that I looooooove inspirational tees. Spreading positive messages is always a plus especially when you’re wearing what you declare. It is empowering not only to the person wearing it but to the readers as well.
So it’s no secret that upon seeing Be YOU Jewels’
Instagram giveaway for the “I am BeYOUtiful” tee, I quickly entered. To my surprise, I won and couldn’t wait to get it home and wear it!
I love this tee because of the message that resonates – body positivity, self confidence and self love – 3 areas that I used to struggle with. It’s easy to lose yourself, especially in a society where beauty is often defined by one particular look and/or dress size. Clearly I don’t fit that mold (and never did), but fortunately, I am one of many women who have come to love myself regardless of what society thinks. Yes, that includes loving my full figured frame, double digit feet and my non flat tummy without resolve…and you should too!
By the way, I wore this tee to the Full Figured Fashion Week’s Pop Up Shop and I received so many compliments. Photo credit goes to Plus Model Magazine
for sharing the picture on their Instagram
page. How awesome is that??!!!
Welp, until next time beauties and beaus. Be sure check out Be You Jewels
for more tees, jewelry and accessories, all for $15 or less…and tell her I sent ya! <3
|I speak life and love to myself…do you?
I’ve been smiling from ear to ear since receiving my beautiful pocket mirror from my girl Ivy LaArtista of See Body Love Self. It’s the perfect gift for me, especially since I didn’t always like what I saw in the mirror. But my, how the times have changed! Where I once felt “unpretty”, I now see beauty…not just physically but emotionally and spiritually as well. Keep in mind that I was the girl who hated taking pictures, so to see me now is truly a blessing.
My mission today is to encourage women to become whole in all areas of their lives and to love themselves. TOGETHER we can wage war on that monster of low self-esteem and negative body image once and for all.
So, congratulations to Ivy on the 2ndanniversary of her business See Body Love Self for being influential in the quest for positive body image. She has taught me a whole lot and has been a blessing to me in so many ways. Thank you for handpicking the perfect gift for me because I have learned the importance of choosing words that give both life and love.
I encourage everyone to visit her website (http://seebodyloveself.org/) for informational articles and tips. In addition, you can get more body positive goods here: http://sbls.info/sblsparty2015.
Red nail polish and red lipstick are two of my favorite things. But never in a million years did I think I’d “need” a red dress until I saw this Metal Accent Wrap Dress. While minding my own business, I was perusing Avenue’s site and this beauty popped up…I think I even heard it call my name, lol!
Let me just say that that this dress is gorgeous and Avenue picked the perfect color. It’s bold and clearly makes a statement.
So the dress details… It’s knit material so it stretches. At the neckline, there is a metal accent ring – which gives a peekaboo effect. There is also ruching at the waist, creating a nice silhouette and also giving the illusion of a wrap dress. Needless to say this sassy number fits well and is definitely a must have in any curvy beauty’s closet.
Thanks for reading and let me know what you think!
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Dress – Avenue