Hey peeps, so I spent yesterday’s snow day catching up on the best show ever – “This is Us.” Please tell me you watch it??
Well, I was on episode 10 when Sloane and Kevin were having a discussion on their “status.” It went a little something like this: Sloane nervously asked Kevin, “What are we doing…I mean are we just sleeping together because if so that’s totally fine.” Kevin, obviously frazzled by the question responds, “Here’s the thing. I like you…a lot. You’re funny, you’re brilliant and I like sleeping with you. I don’t know what we are. I’m just happy there’s a we to talk about.”
Now did he answer the question? Because if he did then I missed it. It goes back to the point I made in my last video, “I’m Single…and I’m Selective Too” about listening intently to what is said versus what you want to hear.
Although this is television, this is some people’s reality and when I heard it my heart just sank…because I’ve been there. I knew I deserved better and wanted more but was willing to take what I could get because there was a “we.” For goodness sake, I didn’t want to be that single friend who’s shoulder everybody cried on. I wanted to trade stories about my boo during girl chat…but the turmoil wasn’t worth it – and it still ain’t.
Precious dear hearts, as the title states, “Don’t settle for less…if you want more.” If it’s marriage you desire, then you have to carry yourself as such, not compromise nor give mixed signals. Guys may not like it, but one thing’s for certain – THEY WILL RESPECT YOU.
So, this entire week has been bananas!! From the Avenue feature (here) to walking for designer Thomas Lavone at Philly Fashion Week on Saturday.
I’m still amazed that for the 3rd year in a row, Thomas Lavone has asked me to be one of his guest models. For those who don’t know, he was my pageant coach in 2013 and he continues to mentor me since my win. I’m honored that he entrusts me to represent his brand.
I wasn’t able to snap many pics but I managed to get a few while backstage:
Also shout out to Joe Clarke Photography for catching Thomas Lavone’s entire collection. Each piece was amazing…from pant suits with pockets and capes to floor length gowns. Psst, make sure you watch the entire video…there’s a pleasant surprise!
Lastly, check out the hashtags #phillyfashionweek and #pfw17 for more pics and videos.
*Avenue sponsored this look in exchange for a review but the opinions are all mine.*
So let me just say this #LBD was simply love at first sight! While perusing Avenue’s latest styles and selections, I was like hold up wait a minute!!!! I gotta have this sassy black number. Us gals know the importance of having at least 1 little black dress in our closet -and this one right here satisfies that necessity. Between the grommet and lace detail along the sleeves and leg, I screamed yaaaaaaaaaaas as I shimmied into it. A pair of simple black pumps completed the look and voila!
I know I wasn’t the only one semi-obsessed with getting my hands on one of those Ugly Sweaters…which are soooo ridiculously cute by the way. This one in particular definitely makes a personal statement because for some reason just about every picture came out blurry, but you know something… “SNOW WHAT!” 😉
You can purchase the Snow What Penguin Holiday Sweater from Avenue Plus Size Clothing and also browse their entire collection in store on on-line. I am most certain you will find a sweater to fulfill your fashion needs, whether it’s for an office party or Ladies Night with the girls. Happy Shopping! xx, Nij
I absolutely love when active wear meets personal style…and that is exactly what happened this past weekend. This [butter soft, might I add] Spacedye Colorblock Active Wear Jacket and matching Leggings set was just what I needed to window shop and run my errands.
I know you’re thinking, uhh Nij it’s active wear, so where are the after workout flex pix?? The way my mom had me walking all over the mall looking for an iron clad pot definitely counted as cardio today!
The set is made of stretchy cotton, so it’s totally breathable and is available in a Black/White combo and Blue in sizes 14/16-30/32. Did I mention that the ENTIRE SITE is currently 50% off until Tuesday, November 8th??
So be sure to check out the Avenue for your current/future active wear needs…you’ll be glad you did!
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